If you are one of the people that believe you have to ‘beat’ a woman into being submissive to you, you are so wrong.
Women are loved into submission. On the other hand, they are tortured into a state of fear and subservience. Be informed. One may wonder why a wife way past her 70s is still sexually active and responsive to her husband, while her counterpart 40 years younger struggles to feel even a spark of desire for her once beloved husband.
The answer is in how the two men in question ‘love’ their wives. I cannot stop reminding you that women are emotional beings when it comes to sex; so, technically, your phallus size, how long you last during sex or how often in a week you show up on the sex front do not matter to her if she is not emotionally happy with you.
What you deposit in her emotional bank is what you will harvest in form of a (genuinely) sexually responsive wife, not to mention a submissive one that really treats you as her king – not just for social media likes. And the opposite is true.
The illusion that inflicting pain on a woman makes her submissive is just that. An illusion. You may not even be the kind that batters one’s wife but are the king of psychological torture and emotional abuse.
“Why is that man looking at you admiringly? You must have had something with him in the past!” “Why are you wriggling your backside when you walk? Are you trying to lure other men?” “Didn’t I tell you not to sell to any male clients, you slut?”
Yet in public and on social media, you project the image of perfection. Well, I have got news for you; the era of dying a hero in an abusive marriage is getting eroded, fast. That wife of yours will surprise you one day and just move on without looking back.
“I had been losing sexual interest in him for a while now, ever since he started listening to his loser friends telling him that he would lose me to a tougher man because he was too soft with me,” one housewife-turned-corporate-girl, said.
“My formerly loving and attentive husband started treating me like trash, on advice from his friends who told him I was too good to be true. The day he came home and slapped me then repeatedly hit my head on the tiled floor because of how I was dressed at home, is the day I finally called it quits.”
The then graduate housewife by choice painfully said goodbye to her two children, went and found a job and has never looked back despite her ex trying to explain how his friends made him do it.
Another couple, their marriage once the toast of Kampala, also fell apart once his wife of decades felt she had had enough of the abuse and beatings while projecting harmony on the social circuit. It is after she divorced him that he woke up to the fact that she was his biggest social capital, his business backbone, etc. Oops! Too late!
Sir, there is no need to beat your wife into faithfulness, meekness or submission – whatever it is you are looking for. Not only are you killing her libido slowly but surely, but you actually risk losing her.
Don’t listen to the losers that don’t believe that happy, harmonious marriages do exist.
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Source: The Observer
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